If you’re like me and you’re an ambivert, you have qualities of both introversion and extroversion.
Some days you’re energized by spending time and connecting with others like an extrovert, while other days you need inward-focused alone time to recharge like an introvert – it’s all about balance for you.
Ambiverts are thriving in today’s workplace. They can be adaptable to almost any situation they are placed in and can connect with many different people in many different ways, which is a huge bonus for their employers! But even with all these benefits, it can still be challenging when actually starting a career with this personality type.
If you’re an ambivert, here are 5 common problems you have probably faced while starting your career.
1. Answering the interview question: “Are you an introvert or extrovert?”
We’ve all heard this question before, but when you don’t quite fit into either category, it can be tricky to answer. If you say “introvert,” people might assume you’re not a team player, so most times you go with“extrovert” because that’s what you think the interviewer wants to hear. Still, neither option fully suits your particular personality type.
2. Wanting to be at a company party, but being too tired to stay past 9pm.
Don’t get me wrong, you love people and you love parties – you can even be the life of the party! – but it often depends on the circumstances leading up to it. If you have a hectic workweek complete with a lot of social interaction beforehand, you may not have had a chance to recharge your batteries and want to leave early. Or, you may go to the party fully pumped and ready to socialize with everyone at the beginning, but once those batteries are maxed out, you crave peace and quiet.
3. Wanting to be recognized for your accomplishments, but being uncomfortable with being the centre of attention for too long.
Who doesn’t like being recognized for all their hard work at the office? You sure do, especially when it’s a new position – you just don’t like it to be for an overly extended period of time. You p-a-n-i-c over the thought of someone else paying more than 30 seconds of attention to you. Praise is okay, just without the constant spotlight.
4. Wanting to connect with your new colleagues in the office, but needing to adapt to your environment first.
Of course you want to make new connections and build relationships with new colleagues, but too much of a new thing can be overwhelming for you.
Meeting new people in a familiar environment is one thing, but meeting new people in a new environment is another. You just need to get used to your surroundings first.
5. Engaging in small talk with co-workers, but not wanting to seem too disingenuous.
You’re in a new working environment and there are going to be many people you don’t know, so engaging in small talk will be customary for the first little while. You can tolerate small talk, although you may not enjoy it. You sometimes may feel like it is disingenuous and even “fake.” You much rather enjoy intimate conversations, but you realize this will take time.
It’s not always easy to be stuck in the middle, but in time you’ll come to find that being an ambivert has it’s own unique advantages, just like any other personality type!