It’s summer, and the temperature is rising – but tempers shouldn’t follow suit.
Even if your summer job if a temporary one, getting along with your co-workers is crucial. You’ll be working closely with them for the next few months, and the relationships you forge now could affect you down the road as well. It’s important to make sure that you are all working together cohesively.
But have you noticed you’ve been getting the cold shoulder lately? Maybe you have some habits that are annoying to your teammates. Here are some common things that may be irritating them, and why.
You aren’t helping them
Don’t be that person in the workplace that other people can’t depend on. It’s even worse if you seem to be oblivious to their needs. What annoys colleagues most is when they ask for your help on something and either you forget, don’t perform up to expectations, or end up not meeting deadlines so they get stuck doing the work for you.
When someone asks you for help, take it as a compliment and perform above and beyond. You want to be a great team player, and show your boss and other colleagues your dependable, and valuable to the company.
You’re always taking over
Yes, it is great to be able to take the lead and prove that you have the ability to be the leader of the group, but even the leaders or managers of a group have to learn to let others drive the engagement and listen to their other co-workers.
A good leader and team player is someone who takes other people’s thoughts, opinions and ideas into consideration without judgment, and acknowledges that there are other members on the team other than just them. Even though some people are naturally born with leadership qualities, talking over others and being bossy will rub everyone else the wrong way.
You don’t know how to accept or give a compliment
Accepting compliments is tough for many people, often because we are too hard on ourselves and we don’t want to seem full of ourselves. When someone compliments you, a simple “thank you” will show you are grateful, while remaining humble. If you try to push off the compliment (“oh, it wasn’t a big deal, I still made lots of mistakes…”) it gives off the impression that you think their comment was misplaced, which could create an awkward situation.
On the other hand, make sure you give other people encouragement and compliments when they do a job that deserves to be recognized. It’s amazing what a simple “great job” or “thank you for your help” can do. Show that you are considerate by giving credit where it’s due, and don’t shy away when others do the same to you.
You aren’t being reasonable
Want to really annoy your co-workers? Well you may already be if you’re being completely unreasonable about projects and discussions at work. Sometimes your priorities may not be the exact same for other members of your department or organization. Keep that in mind when setting deadlines.
If you’re asking for someone’s assistance or opinion on something, make sure that what you are asking of them is realistic, considering they also have other work on their plate in that timeframe. Often times, it can be easy to lose sight of all the other things your co-workers may be doing. If you’re unsure, just ask them!
You are throwing them under the bus
When something goes wrong, or something doesn’t get done, don’t push the blame on your teammates. Yes, if someone really isn’t holding up their end of the bargain, it may be a good idea to point it out to them or their manager. However, constantly throwing them under the bus in front of other people without trying to resolve the issue with them directly is an extremely toxic way to deal with these situations.
Not only will the person directly affected become upset, but other team members will also take notice. Be a team player – if you have an issue with someone, deal with it directly, as opposed to going behind people’s backs and throwing them under the bus when they may not even realize there’s an issue.
Working as a team isn’t always easy, and it will get frustrating at times since everyone is unique. However, learning to work as a team is one of the most critical skills you can develop as a professional. Be mindful of how others may perceive your actions, and you’ll find it’ll be easier to work cohesively with your colleagues.