The only thing that never changes is that things are always changing. It seems like a contradiction in terms, but it’s a very true statement.
Although I still have one more year of university to complete before I graduate, since I’m a transfer student, I’m at the age where the biggest changes in life are usually made. I see it happening to friends and all around me.
Three of my friends are engaged to be married and another will be by the end of the summer. Two of my friends no longer live in the country – one is completing a summer internship in Europe and the other has moved to the U.S. Many of them are on the hunt for full-time careers and someone else I know just bought a house.
It’s scary and weird to see all of these major life achievements taking place for people around me, knowing that I will soon join their ranks and make similar life-altering decisions.
You can never fully prepare yourself for growing up. It’s something that feels like it happens overnight. It may seem cheesy when you hear your parents say, “It seems like just yesterday you were in diapers…” but I’ve gotten to the point in my life where I feel the same way.
In the blink of an eye, I’ve become a young adult. Where does the time go? All of a sudden Life is staring me down. So how do we cope? How do we roll with the punches during such a big transformation?
It may seem like the easy route to choose full denial – continue acting like a teenager, cling to adolescent notions of partying every weekend and perhaps finding solace in younger friends. However, this tactic only lasts for so long. Sooner or later you’ll have to face up to the fact that this part of your life is over.
Let it be before you’re the oldest one in the bars, being labelled a Cougar or a Dirty Old Man. And I’m not suggesting you can’t have fun once you’ve hit your mid-20s, but when responsibility comes knocking, make sure you have the tools to readily answer.
The best way to deal with growing up and all the changes that come with it is to just take it as it comes and know that you are mature enough to tackle all the hurdles. It seems scary at first, but I find it helpful to focus on the positives and think of the good things about growing up.
How about finally being out of school? It acts as a safety net for many years, but there’s a certain sense of relief in knowing you’ll never have to pull another all-nighter to finish an essay at the last minute, or spend money on textbooks you’ll probably never glance at again.
Or finally getting out of student debt or your parents’ house? How about just being past your awkward young stage and being more sure of yourself and confident?
Though you may want to hold onto certain parts of your youth, there are probably some that you can’t wait to throw away. There are so many exciting parts of that transitional time after graduating university and focusing on them will slowly ease your fears about having to face responsibility and maturity.
After all, it’s the one time in your life when it seems the world is your oyster. Endless opportunities abound. Take advantage of them instead of shying away in fear. You’ll never get chances like these again. And as it goes in a popular saying, “Be happy for this moment; this moment is your life.”